Have a positive and safe support system. Everyone needs positive reinforcements and positive people surrounding their lives. I understand the difficulty of staying positive when surrounded by negativity. So, If you are a recovering alcoholic its probably not best to hang with alcoholics. If you know you are a fighter, stay clear of instigating people. Know who your friends are! If you have a friend that tries to push at you, what your trying to get away from, that is not a friend. Some people (friends) do that because they have failed at what you are trying to accomplish. Who wants to be a failure alone? Some would much rather see you fail, rather that see you succeed at something they couldn’t.